Saving the best of yourself

How are you going to save some of the best of you for those who mean the most to you in 2017?

Sometimes I’m as bad as anyone when it comes to forgetting about what’s truly important.

I know my family is the most important thing to me, I tell them they are, but sometimes my actions don’t reflect that.

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You know how it goes…

You’ve got your work, your mission. Things are coming at you from all angles, both urgent and important, from people who like you far less than your family and who are far less tolerant!

So you prioritise those people and situations, and your family takes a back seat.

That’s OK, sometimes, but it’s a recipe for disaster when it becomes the norm.

And it easily becomes the norm, doesn’t it?

You tell your partner they are the most important thing to you, you tell your kids they are the world to you, but then you take that call and head back to work…

Your actions tell a different story.

We’ve probably all been there. I know I have.

 

When I interviewed Professor Fiona Wood, Australian of the Year, pioneer of spray on skin, she said something to me that struck a chord: “Save some of the best of you for those who mean the most to you.”

I sat with that for a long time, reflecting on what she meant and how it relates to me.

It means that the common approach of ‘leaving it all out on the court’, an approach we are applauded for in modern living, an approach I’ve lived for years, just might be flawed.

If we leave everything on the court, if we give 100% of ourselves to our work, what does that mean for our families? If day after day we come home tired, stressed, preoccupied, grumpy etc., then what message does that send?

It’s obvious isn’t it?

 

We need to take care of ourselves to the point where we don’t need to ‘leave it all out on the court’. We need to be able to save some energy, some caring, some compassion, some humour etc., for those who are with us day after day, week after week, month after month, year after year.

The patients and our colleagues can’t get it all.

Sure, sometimes the patients will take priority, but the reality for most of us is that the patients take the priority all the time. No wonder doctors have the highest rates of marriage dissatisfaction of any group.

What changes can you make in 2017 to make sure that your family feel like the most important thing in the world to you?

Because it won’t just be good for them. It will be good for you too.

How are you going to save some of the best of you for those who mean the most to you in 2017?

Sometimes I’m as bad as anyone when it comes to forgetting about what’s truly important.

I know my family is the most important thing to me, I tell them they are, but sometimes my actions don’t reflect that.

 How_do_I_pay_the_least_tax_as_a_doctor-_(24).png

You know how it goes…

You’ve got your work, your mission. Things are coming at you from all angles, both urgent and important, from people who like you far less than your family and who are far less tolerant!

So you prioritise those people and situations, and your family takes a back seat.

That’s OK, sometimes, but it’s a recipe for disaster when it becomes the norm.

And it easily becomes the norm, doesn’t it?

You tell your partner they are the most important thing to you, you tell your kids they are the world to you, but then you take that call and head back to work…

Your actions tell a different story.

We’ve probably all been there. I know I have.

 

When I interviewed Professor Fiona Wood, Australian of the Year, pioneer of spray on skin, she said something to me that struck a chord: “Save some of the best of you for those who mean the most to you.”

I sat with that for a long time, reflecting on what she meant and how it relates to me.

It means that the common approach of ‘leaving it all out on the court’, an approach we are applauded for in modern living, an approach I’ve lived for years, just might be flawed.

If we leave everything on the court, if we give 100% of ourselves to our work, what does that mean for our families? If day after day we come home tired, stressed, preoccupied, grumpy etc., then what message does that send?

It’s obvious isn’t it?

 

We need to take care of ourselves to the point where we don’t need to ‘leave it all out on the court’. We need to be able to save some energy, some caring, some compassion, some humour etc., for those who are with us day after day, week after week, month after month, year after year.

The patients and our colleagues can’t get it all.

Sure, sometimes the patients will take priority, but the reality for most of us is that the patients take the priority all the time. No wonder doctors have the highest rates of marriage dissatisfaction of any group.

What changes can you make in 2017 to make sure that your family feel like the most important thing in the world to you?

Because it won’t just be good for them. It will be good for you too.

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  • published this page in MedWorld Blog 2016-12-23 10:04:15 +1300