Be a small fish

As I have previously noted, Anthony Robbins said, ‘The quality of your life is a direct reflection of the expectations of your peer group.’

 

As human beings most of us care to some extent about what people think of us. At some level we want to fit in and to connect with those closest to us.

 

As a result we will adjust our expectations of ourselves to meet the expectations of those closest to us, and by doing this we adjust our personal standards, and therefore the results we get.

 

While it might feel comfortable, being the big fish in a small pond is the surest way to place limits on your success. To grow, both yourself and your business, it’s much better to be the smallest fish in a really big pond.

 

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While this might feel uncomfortable, being surrounded by people who are playing at a higher level than you, growth will only happen when you move through that discomfort and you start to elevate your own game.

 

If you are overweight and you want to get fit then it’s a bad idea to team up with an overweight friend who also wants to get fit. That will be an attractive option because it will feel safe, but it won’t be an effective option. Your current fitness is a result of your past standards for eating and exercise, as is your overweight friend’s. Putting two people together with low standards for eating and exercise is less likely to lead to great fitness and more likely to lead to watching TV and eating pizza on the couch together.

 

If you really want to get fit then go where the fit people are, who hold themselves to the standard you want to achieve. Initially you’ll feel uncomfortable because their high standards will highlight your low standards, and this will cause you to raise your standards and that is what will lead to positive change.

 

Similarly, as a doctor, if you want to be successful and happy then don’t surround yourself with the majority of struggling stressed doctors. Don’t sit in the café at lunchtime with the biggest moaners and moan with them. All that will do is give you people to complain with and keep you playing small. Surround yourself with really happy doctors who are thriving and you’ll be forced to raise your standards just to stay in that peer group — the results will follow.

 

So the second main reason to ensure that you stack your corner is to raise your standards. Then you raise the level of the game you are playing and the results you get.

 

In addition, being around people who are playing at a higher level than you allows you to expand your belief that you can also play at a higher level — it gives you something to reference yourself against.

As I have previously noted, Anthony Robbins said, ‘The quality of your life is a direct reflection of the expectations of your peer group.’

 

As human beings most of us care to some extent about what people think of us. At some level we want to fit in and to connect with those closest to us.

 

As a result we will adjust our expectations of ourselves to meet the expectations of those closest to us, and by doing this we adjust our personal standards, and therefore the results we get.

 

While it might feel comfortable, being the big fish in a small pond is the surest way to place limits on your success. To grow, both yourself and your business, it’s much better to be the smallest fish in a really big pond.

 

Small_Fish_Big_Pond.png

 

While this might feel uncomfortable, being surrounded by people who are playing at a higher level than you, growth will only happen when you move through that discomfort and you start to elevate your own game.

 

If you are overweight and you want to get fit then it’s a bad idea to team up with an overweight friend who also wants to get fit. That will be an attractive option because it will feel safe, but it won’t be an effective option. Your current fitness is a result of your past standards for eating and exercise, as is your overweight friend’s. Putting two people together with low standards for eating and exercise is less likely to lead to great fitness and more likely to lead to watching TV and eating pizza on the couch together.

 

If you really want to get fit then go where the fit people are, who hold themselves to the standard you want to achieve. Initially you’ll feel uncomfortable because their high standards will highlight your low standards, and this will cause you to raise your standards and that is what will lead to positive change.

 

Similarly, as a doctor, if you want to be successful and happy then don’t surround yourself with the majority of struggling stressed doctors. Don’t sit in the café at lunchtime with the biggest moaners and moan with them. All that will do is give you people to complain with and keep you playing small. Surround yourself with really happy doctors who are thriving and you’ll be forced to raise your standards just to stay in that peer group — the results will follow.

 

So the second main reason to ensure that you stack your corner is to raise your standards. Then you raise the level of the game you are playing and the results you get.

 

In addition, being around people who are playing at a higher level than you allows you to expand your belief that you can also play at a higher level — it gives you something to reference yourself against.

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